It was Sister Akua who inspired my learning to say "Please, I can do it myself" in Twi, in hopes that the older woman would at some point do herself a favor and take a break from cooking, cleaning, laundering, etc. She spoke few words of English and I even fewer phrases of Twi, but one way or another we managed. "Managed," really, isn't appropriate - Sister Akua will always be one of the first people I think of when thinking of or missing Ghana, and I hope I'm safe in saying the affection was mutual. Our backgrounds were drastically different and we were separated by age, language, ethnicity, nationality, and socio-economic status, to name a few, but such divisions boil down easily when it comes to Forster's dictate of "only connect."
It's been over a year since I left Ghana, and hearing that a serious bout of illness hospitalized her and ultimately separated her from the family she's been with for years - the family I had the pleasure of staying with for two months in 2010 - makes me miss her all the more, makes me wish that much more that there were something I could do.
Back in the US, not long before hearing about Sister Akua's illness and subsequent move, I sat in my political science seminar on human rights while fellow students discussed our responsibility and lack thereof as global citizens. (That phrase wasn't used at the time, but perhaps it should have been.) One student sitting near me in the circle raised her hand to bemoan the potential corruption of NGOs (reasonable, if you haven't done your research before contributing) then, more resoundingly, to bemoan commercials apparently attempting to make her feel guilty for what she had. "I'm sad that they make me sad, playing sad music and showing pictures and everything. They should show something happy!" ...I kid you not. This said under the warmth of a North Face jacket, between Facebook chatting on a MacBook Air she'd just pulled from a designer bag. It took all my willpower not to throw something at her for the sheer absurdity of it.
In roughly one month, I will have completed my undergraduate studies. Regardless - or more likely, consequently - plenty remains to be worked over in my mind, answered (to some extent), and attempted. Can't help but think that a key part of that has to be connecting someone like Sister Akua with someone like my disgruntled peer. Or rather, encouraging that peer to look beyond Sarah McLachlan and to the reality that remains behind it, the wonderful and the less so.

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